Partner Abandonment – Facing Illness Alone

Partner Abandonment – Facing Illness Alone

The term “life-changing diagnosis” can sound like the understatement of the century if your partner has abandoned you due to your illness.

A 2009 study published in the journal, Cancer, entitled Gender Disparity in the Rate of Partner Abandonment in Patients with Serious Medical Illness, found that a married woman diagnosed with a serious disease is six times more likely to be divorced or separated than a man with a similar diagnosis. Among study participants, the divorce rate was 21 percent for seriously ill women and 3 percent for seriously ill men.

Those statistics are saddening, and it is difficult to cope with marital problems when you are already dealing with physical and emotional pain from your symptoms and treatments, financial troubles from being unable to work or being denied your insurance claim, day-to-day logistics of getting to and from doctor’s appointments, and all the other challenges that come with illness.

If your partner is neglecting you or has abandoned you in your hour of need, you need to look for help elsewhere. Focus on creating a new support network of family, friends, spiritual counselors, therapists and doctors who you feel comfortable turning to. Consider joining an organized support group and meet new friends who are going through the same experience that you are.

Request a personal support worker to help with chores that your partner used to take care of, such as housework, cooking, administering your medication, bathing and anything else you may need. Your insurance may cover the cost of a personal care attendant, and there are government-supported programs that provide attendants at no cost.

If your partner’s absence has left you with a huge financial burden, apply for disability benefits if you have group or private insurance, or make a claim for benefits if you have critical illness insurance. If your claim is denied, contact us at 1-888-777-1109 as we may be able to recover benefits for you.

If you do not have insurance coverage, look into government programs such as Employment Insurance Sickness Benefits, the Ontario Disability Benefit Support program (ODSP), or the Canada Pension Plan (CPP) Disability program.

While this may be the most difficult experience of your life, remember that help is out there if you look for it. As Marilyn vos Savant said, “Being defeated is only a temporary condition; giving up is what makes it permanent.” Choose not to give up today.

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